Stop Chasing Girls, Start Attracting Them

Chasing girls is one of the biggest mistakes that most men make.

Chasing a girl will absolutely, positively destroy any chances you have of sleeping with a woman.

Today I want to explain to you why chasing girls is so bad and what you can do instead to get women attracted to you.

Why Is Chasing Girls So Bad?

Chasing a girl is a bad thing to do on many different levels such as:

  • It causes you to become needy and desperate which makes you unattractive.
  • It causes you to waste away your life pursuing a woman who isn’t even interested in you.
  • It prevents you from dating and attracting the women who ARE interested in you sexually and romantically.

Chasing girls is BAD. It never works. The more you chase a girl, the more she runs away and loses interest in you.

You begin to miss out on life and you begin to lack an abundance mentality. Who wants to waste most of their life chasing after a woman who is not interested in them sexually or romantically, when they could be dating and sleeping with cute girls who are interested in them.

It makes no sense does it? But then why do men continue to do it?

Chasing Girls Is An Emotional Reaction…

Most men do not consciously decide to begin chasing a girl. It’s something that occurs and begins happening unconsciously.

I’m sure this has happened to you before. You happened to meet a cute girl and you could just sense a spark and a connection between the two of you.

But then what ended up happening?

More than likely, the girl gave you repeated signals and you NEVER made a move. You failed to escalate and take the lead. You never asked her out or kissed her. Most of the time you didn’t do anything. Then the girl began to lose interest. And then… You Began To Chase After Her.

That’s what happens to most men all of the time. They meet a girl who likes them, they fail to make a move, she begins losing interest, and they begin chasing her.

It’s something that happens automatically. You don’t plan to chase her, you just DO.

And this is what causes you a great deal of pain, suffering, anger,and humility.

So you begin to call her constantly, figure out the perfect text to send her, and follow her on Facebook all day long.

You begin to become OBSESSED with her. For a moment you even begin to question whether or not you’re in love with her( Of course you’re more so in love with the idealized version of her in your head than her actual self).

And eventually chasing after this one woman begins to consume your entire life. What started out as some cute girl you met has become your perfect soul mate who you must have.

If this sounds like nonsense to you, that’s because it is. Yet many men do exactly this in real life.

They meet a woman, sense attraction but fail to make a move, the woman loses interest, and they begin to chase after her.

Chasing girls does NOT work and never will. Chasing a girl will destroy your life. Chasing girls is THE number 1 killer of men. Not a killer of the body, but of the mind, spirit, future, and happy life.

But if chasing women doesn’t work, what can you do instead?

Stop Chasing Girls And Start Attracting Them…

So now that you understand the very real dangers of chasing girls and why it’s such a bad thing to do, I will arm you with a few tips and tactics to make you avoid ever having to chase a woman again. They are…

  • Approach Women And Recognize Their Signals: Of course the first step to successfully seducing women is to first approach them. But after that you must be able to recognize the attraction signals that she gives you. What are they?

She will begin to playing with her hair, she will begin touching you and playfully hitting you, she will begin asking you more questions and trying to find out more about you, etc.

  • Once You Recognize Her Interest, Move Fast: As soon as you realize that a girl is interested and attracted to you, you immediately begin progressing the interaction forward.

This could mean, If the two of you are both standing up in a crowded bar, you ask her to move with you or isolate her. If the two of you are in a coffee shop that could mean trading phone numbers and setting up a date. As soon as you notice that a girl likes you, you Take Action and get her invested in you.

  • Get Her Somewhere Alone And Sexually Escalate: After the conversation has been going on for a long enough period of time, you find a way to either bounce back to your place or her place. If she is attracted to you in any way at all she will 9 times out of 10 agree to that provided you offer her plausible deniability.

Once you are able to meet women smoothly, get past small talk, and progress the interaction forward you will begin to realize how easy attracting women really is.

No longer will you fail to make a move and be forced to chase after a girl. Now you will become a sexy man who women find alluring and can’t keep their hands off of.

Doing and mastering these things will take practice. Forcing yourself to take action and kiss a girl may even make you uncomfortable at first. But soon… you will begin to find yourself seducing and sleeping with women 15 minutes after first meeting them. Consistently.

Because these women will KNOW that you’re a man who knows what he wants, goes after what he wants, and more importantly Gets What He Wants.

If you’re still a guy stuck chasing girls realize that now is the time for you to cut your losses, focus on newer women(the ones who are already interested in you), and begin becoming the man who you were meant to be.

Continue reading here: Using Sex and Dirty Talk to Turn Women On and Get Them Into Bed

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Readers' Questions

  • fausto
    When a man stops chasing a woman?
    2 months ago
  • There could be several reasons why a man stops chasing a woman.
    1. Lack of interest: The man might realize that he is not as interested in the woman as he initially thought. This could be due to compatibility issues, differences in values or interests, or simply not feeling a strong connection.
    2. Rejection or lack of reciprocation: If the woman does not show any interest or rejects the man's advances, he might decide to stop chasing her to avoid further embarrassment or disappointment.
    3. Emotional exhaustion: Continuous rejection or lack of progress in the pursuit can lead to emotional exhaustion. The man might feel drained and decide to move on to other prospects or focus on self-improvement instead.
    4. Focusing on other priorities: Sometimes, a man might realize that he needs to prioritize other aspects of his life such as career, family, or personal goals. In such cases, he might choose to stop pursuing a woman to concentrate on these areas.
    5. Relationship status: If the man is already in a committed relationship or starting to develop feelings for someone else, he might stop pursuing the woman in order to maintain fidelity or pursue a new potential partner.
    6. It's important to note that every individual and situation is unique, and these reasons may vary from person to person.
    • fesahaye
      When to stop pursuing a woman?
      3 months ago
    • Knowing when to stop pursuing a woman can be subjective and dependent on individual circumstances. However, here are some signs that may indicate it's time to stop pursuing her:
      1. Lack of interest or reciprocation: If she consistently shows disinterest, doesn't respond to your attempts at conversation or physical contact, or doesn't make an effort to spend time with you, it may be a sign to stop pursuing her.
      2. She expresses clear disinterest: If she directly tells you she is not interested or does not want to pursue a romantic relationship, it's important to respect her wishes and stop pursuing her.
      3. Engaged in another relationship: If she is already in a committed relationship, it is typically best to step back and respect her current partnership.
      4. Unresolved personal issues: If she is dealing with personal or emotional challenges that do not leave room for a new relationship, it may be respectful to give her space and time to handle those issues.
      5. Lack of time and availability: If she consistently cancels plans or seems too busy to spend time with you, it could indicate a lack of interest or prioritization of other aspects of life.
      6. Mutual agreement: If, after multiple conversations, you both agree that pursuing a romantic relationship is not the right step, it may be time to stop pursuing her.
      7. It's important to remember that everyone's situation is unique, and communication is key in any relationship. If you are uncertain, having an open and honest conversation with her can provide clarity on where both of you stand.
      • selamawit sebhat
        Does chasing a girl ever work?
        3 months ago
      • Chasing a girl can work in certain situations, but it ultimately depends on several factors. Firstly, it's important to respect the girl's feelings and boundaries. If she has clearly shown disinterest or disapproval of your advances, it is essential to accept and respect her decision rather than persistently chasing her. Consent and mutual attraction are crucial for any healthy relationship. However, if there is initial interest from both parties, chasing a girl can show your dedication and effort to pursue a romantic connection. It demonstrates your genuine interest and can potentially lead to a successful relationship. To increase your chances of success, it's important to build a genuine connection, establish good communication, and demonstrate compatibility. Taking the time to get to know her, engaging in shared interests, and showing genuine care and empathy can positively impact the pursuit of a romantic relationship. Ultimately, the success of chasing a girl is dependent on the individual circumstances, the girl's level of interest, and compatibility between the two individuals involved. It's important to approach relationships with respect, patience, and understanding of the other person's feelings and boundaries.
        • bertha
          How to stop chasing and start attracting?
          3 months ago
        • To stop chasing and start attracting, consider using the following strategies:
          1. Focus on self-improvement: Take time to invest in yourself and work on personal growth. This can include improving physical appearance, enhancing skills and knowledge, and developing a positive mindset. When you become the best version of yourself, you naturally attract others.
          2. Build genuine confidence: Confidence is attractive, but it must come from within. Practice self-affirmation and acknowledge your worth. Work on your strengths and embrace your uniqueness. As you become more confident, people will be naturally drawn to your positive energy.
          3. Develop an interesting and fulfilling life: Pursue hobbies, interests, and activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Having a life outside of seeking validation from others will make you more attractive. People will be attracted to your passion and the level of enjoyment you derive from your own interests.
          4. Cultivate a positive mindset: Maintaining a positive outlook attracts others who are drawn to optimism and happiness. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones and practice gratitude. Focus on solutions rather than problems. A positive mindset gives off an attractive and magnetic energy.
          5. Be authentic: People are attracted to authenticity and genuineness. Be true to yourself and your values. Avoid trying to be someone you are not just to gain approval or attract others. Embrace your unique qualities and be confident in who you are.
          6. Practice active listening: When engaging in conversations, genuinely listen to others without interrupting or providing unsolicited advice. Show interest in what they are saying and ask follow-up questions. Active listening helps create a connection with others and shows that you value their presence.
          7. Focus on building meaningful connections: Instead of chasing after a large number of shallow relationships, focus on building deep and meaningful connections with others. Invest time and effort in people who reciprocate the same level of interest and appreciation. Quality over quantity will naturally attract others who value and appreciate your presence in their lives.
          8. Remember that attracting others is a process that takes time, and it's essential to be patient and kind to yourself along the way. Focus on your personal growth and happiness, and the right people will naturally be drawn to you.
          • thorsten
            How to stop chasing a man and take your power back?
            6 months ago
            1. Recognize the pattern: Firstly, it's important to acknowledge that you are constantly chasing after a man and identify why you do it. Reflect on your past behaviors and interactions to understand the underlying reasons for this behavior. Understanding the root cause will help you work towards changing this pattern.
            2. Focus on self-care: Shift your focus from the man and redirect it towards yourself. Prioritize self-care by engaging in activities and hobbies that bring you joy and fulfillment. This will help boost your self-esteem and confidence, making you less reliant on someone else for happiness.
            3. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries in your relationships. Communicate your expectations with the person you're interested in and ensure they align with your values and needs. Stick to these boundaries and hold yourself accountable for maintaining them.
            4. Create space: Give yourself some distance from the man you are chasing. This could mean spending time apart, limiting communication, or avoiding situations where you would typically be chasing after him. Creating space will allow you to refocus on yourself while gaining clarity about your priorities and desires.
            5. Build a fulfilling life: Cultivate a life that brings you happiness and fulfillment outside of relationships. Invest in your personal and professional goals, spend time with friends and family, engage in hobbies, and pursue personal growth. The more fulfilled and content you are on your own, the less likely you will be to chase after someone else.
            6. Stay true to yourself: Remember your own worth and value. Don't compromise your beliefs, values, and dreams for someone else. It's important to be true to yourself and maintain independence, even in relationships. This will help you feel empowered and avoid the need to constantly chase after someone.
            7. Surround yourself with support: Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist who can help you navigate through this process. Surrounding yourself with a positive and encouraging support system can provide you with guidance, perspective, and emotional support as you work towards reclaiming your power.
            8. Remember, breaking old patterns takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and stay committed to prioritizing your own well-being and personal growth.
            • Marigold
              Does stop chasing cause more attraction?
              1 year ago
            • It is possible that stop chasing can cause more attraction, as it may create a level of curiosity and intrigue in the other person. However, it is important to note that the outcome of this approach is highly dependent on the individual involved and the situation.
              • marcus
                How to make my wife chase me again?
                1 year ago
                1. Show her respect. Respect is one of the most important components of any relationship, and is key to making your wife want to chase after you again. Make sure to show her that you value her opinions, listen to her and make her feel appreciated.
                2. Show affection. Showing affection can be a great way to make your wife feel wanted and loved. Make an effort to communicate your love in words and actions. Hug her, send her sweet messages and give her small gifts.
                3. Spend quality time together. Make time for your wife and do activities together. Go for a walk, take a weekend trip, or cook dinner together. This will help to create a bond between the two of you.
                4. Give her space. Let your wife have some time alone when she needs it. This will help her to feel respected and appreciated, and make her want to come back to you.
                5. Play hard to get. If your wife is feeling neglected, try to be a bit elusive. Don't always be available, and don't always be eager to spend time with her. This will make her wonder what you're up to and make her want to come after you.
                • LEMLEM SEMHAR
                  How to stop chasing girls?
                  1 year ago
                • The best way to stop chasing girls is to focus on your own life. Spend time doing things that make you happy and take care of yourself—work on your career, exercise, read a book or take a class. You can also focus on developing meaningful relationships with friends and family, and giving back to your community. Working on your personal development and surrounding yourself with people who will support your growth will help to diminish any need to chase girls.
                  • Medhanie
                    How to get girls to chase you?
                    1 year ago
                    1. Make yourself desirable. Work on your appearance, have a great sense of style, and have a positive attitude. Women are attracted to confident, successful men.
                    2. Build your confidence. Be self-assured and positive about yourself. Compliment yourself and your accomplishments.
                    3. Be a great listener. Women appreciate men who are attentive and engaged when they’re speaking. Ask questions and show genuine interest in her opinions.
                    4. Show interest in her. Compliment her on her looks, her accomplishments, or her character traits. Women love feeling appreciated.
                    5. Be playful. Let your playful side show during conversation and don’t be afraid to show your sense of humor. Women like men who can be funny without taking themselves too seriously.
                    6. Initiate contact. Don’t be afraid to take the initiative and ask her out. Make sure to be upfront and honest about your intentions.
                    • Haben
                      What happens when you stop chasing a woman?
                      1 year ago
                    • When you stop chasing a woman, she will either continue to be interested and pursue you, or she will lose interest and move on. In either case, it is important to respect her wishes and let her take the lead in the relationship if that's what she desires.
                      • topi
                        When to stop chasing a girl?
                        1 year ago
                      • When the girl has made it clear that she is not interested in pursuing a relationship. Respect her wishes and move on.
                        • jasmin
                          How to not chase a girl?
                          1 year ago
                          1. Take some time for yourself to refocus and put your energy into something else.
                          2. Stop reaching out to her, even if she initiates contact.
                          3. Avoid situations where you might run into her, such as going to places she frequents.
                          4. Cut off communication with her and stay away from her social media.
                          5. Talk to someone else you trust to gain perspective on the situation.
                          6. Make a list of positive activities you can do to take your mind off chasing her.
                          7. Find a healthy way to express the emotions you’re feeling so you don’t become overwhelmed.