How to Start a Conversation With a New Girl You Like

There are many wrong ways to start a conversation with a new girl you like and only a few right ways.

A lot of guys attempt to use one liners and they often don’t get any bites. Other times guys attempt cat-calling by trying the ole “Hey baby hey!”. Needless to say, this doesn’t work either.

I’m going to show you the best tips and techniques on how to start a conversation with a new girl you like and I ’ m ONLY going to show you the methods that I use that actually work.

I’m not going to teach you any manipulative pick up lines, instead I want you guys to focus on the situation at hand whenever you are out meeting new women.

How to Start a Conversation With a New Girl You Like: Be in the moment

First things first you have to be in the moment when you want to start a conversation with a woman. You have to pick something relevant to talk about.

You also can’t come off as boring and unoriginal. This means stay away from the weather such as “Nice weather, huh?” This very rarely works at all. Because the reason is you come off as a boring guy who doesn’t have anything interesting to talk about.

The reason why I’m not going to teach you guys any pick up lines is because they don’t work. They come off as cheesy and they sound robotic if you use them too often. Other times they aren’t even relevant to the conversation that you are having.

Women have mostly heard them all before, and may sometimes finish the line before you even do. It’s embarrassing and very impersonal. Women want to talk to a man who understands them.

How to Start a Conversation With a New Girl You Like: Being original vs. unoriginal?!

Now some of you may say Malcolm has already given us a line: “Hey I just saw you walking and I just had to tell you . . .” It’s a good line and it’s not the first time I saw it on a dating blog before.

Here’s the problem with it, what if the girl is sitting down?

See that, I just threw a wrench in there and ruined the whole line. However it does raise the question of how to actually approach girls in different positions and locations.

This is the reason why I encourage guys to be “in the moment”.

If a girl is wearing a really cool shirt that you like, tell her. If a girl is wearing the shirt of your favorite band, ask her about it.

I think you’re starting to see the idea. If a girl smiles at you, go ahead and approach. Tell her how amazing her smile is to you, make her feel special.

How to Start a Conversation With a New Girl You Like: Direct or Indirect?! A closer look

Direct: An actual conversation

Me: Hey stranger, I don’t know you but I think you’re cute, I’m Dave.

Girl: Oh well thank you, I’m so and so.

Now some of you may be thinking, awesome Dave just gave us new line! Not quite, all I did was make a witty comment to get her attention, ground my opener, and tell her I thought she was attractive. I didn’t have a line in mind.

Sure it may look like a pick up line, but it was only a way to get my foot in the door. That’s really all you want, a way of getting your foot in the door.

Here’s a true story of starting a conversation without saying a word initially to a girl…

Indirect: Feeling the bump

Dave: *In line at a food place ordering and a girl bumps into him and Dave looks at the girl and keeps on ordering and the girl bumps into him again* “You know we’re running out of room.” *Turns face toward girl*

Girl: “Oh sorry.” As she says this Dave moves closer to her and begins closing the distance.

Dave: “You know, your boyfriend may get jealous if he finds you this close to me.”

Girl: I don’t have a boyfriend actually.

Dave: Oh really?

Girl: Yes, really.

Now this is how this one works for indirect, I was able to find out the girl had a boyfriend without showing my clear interest for her.

I noticed the girl keep bumping into me, and moving closer to me to converse. I took those as signs of interest and just opened. Then I was able to get into a conversation about finding out if she had a boyfriend.

How to Start a Conversation With a New Girl You Like: Magic lines, do they exist?!

Let me share something with you, women want to feel special when they meet a guy. Women will give you points for walking up to them and saying hi.

I’ve heard of guys who were too nervous to approach use that as their approach: “I was really nervous about saying hi to you, but here I am. Hi.” It’s creative, different, and “in the moment” and that’s exactly what women want.

Now it depends on the girl and how suave you actually deliver your opener, but women will be receptive of you if you smile.

Women want to converse with happy people. You can’t open a girl if you’re walking around grimacing. It doesn’t work.

If you have a unique enough look and dress well and fashionably then SOME women will open you themselves. When that happens just assume she’s interested in you somewhat.

How to Start a Conversation With a New Girl: She caught your eye

In conclusion, other than the fundamentals of a sexy walk, voice, and smile… tell a woman what caught your eye about her.

Like I mentioned above, if there is something about her you like, let her know. Be “in the moment” and stay away from one liners.

Don’t be too over the top, but just be relaxed and breathe. Just assume the girl already likes you and wants to talk. Once you’re in a conversation with her, begin getting to know her and building an emotional connection with her.

Remember your direct opener is all about making her feel special. Afterwards, simply lead the interaction to setting up a first date with her, getting her into bed, and going in for the close and sealing the deal.

Continue reading here: How Important Do Looks Matter For Success With Women?

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Readers' Questions

  • EMANUELE
    How to lead a conversation with a girl?
    1 year ago
    1. Start with a simple introduction. Ask her name, where she is from, what she does for a living, if she is enjoying her day, etc.
    2. Compliment her. Compliments help to make people feel more relaxed and can be a great way to initiate conversation.
    3. Ask open-ended questions. Open-ended questions allow her to share her thoughts and feelings and help to keep the conversation flowing.
    4. Show genuine interest in her. Focus on discovering things about her, rather than talking about yourself.
    5. Listen. Pay attention to what she says and offer thoughtful responses.
    6. Control the flow of the conversation. Don't let it become one-sided.
    7. Be positive. Positive conversations are more fun and engaging.
    8. Keep an open mind. Be open to discussing topics that may be unfamiliar to you.
    9. Be confident. Speak clearly and confidently and maintain proper body language.
    10. Don't be afraid to end the conversation. If it's been a while since you last spoke or if the conversation appears to be coming to an end, let her know it was nice talking to her and that you look forward to speaking with her again soon.
    • RAYAN
      How to start conversations with girls?
      1 year ago
      1. Introduce yourself with a smile.
      2. Ask an open-ended question.
      3. Compliment something about them.
      4. Talk about something that interests both of you.
      5. Share something personal.
      6. Ask their opinion on a topic.
      7. Use humor to break the ice.
      8. Bring up your shared interests.
      9. Ask how they’re doing.
      10. Offer to help with something.
      • rita
        How to initiate conversation with a girl?
        1 year ago
      • Hi there! It's nice to meet you. How are you doing today?
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          How to start a conversation with a women?
          1 year ago
        • Start by introducing yourself and asking her a friendly question about something relevant to the current situation. For example, if you are in a café, you might say something like "Hi, I'm [name]. I was just wondering what you recommend here? I'm new to the area and looking for something good to try."
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            1 year ago
          • Hi there! My name is [your name] - it's nice to meet you. What's your name?
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              How to start a conversation with a girl you like?
              1 year ago
            • Hi there! It's great to meet you. My name is [insert name], what's yours?