How to Be a Real Man (Women Are Magnetically Attracted to)

Women are starting to doubt that a man who has his life and emotions together, a man who is charming and masculine, who is dominant and yet can connect to her heart like no man has ever done, a strong man on his path, even exists.

It is up to us to evoke this “real man”! Yes, I said “evoke”, because it is already in us and all we have to do is draw it out.

But, the big question is: what is a real man? How does one become one? Why is it so important to become a real man?

In this article, I’ll lay out for you the steps to becoming a real man for whom women feel a magnetic attraction, in addition to answering all of the questions above.

I have read several books/materials on the topic and watched naturals (men who didn’t have to learn how to be a real man) and put it all into practice, thus becoming a real man myself after many years of being a wussy boy. So if you wish to be a man who is the complete package for women, you’re in the right place!

Spoiler alert: I don’t believe in pick-up lines or canned routines, so there’s none here.

How to Be a Real Man (and become incredibly attractive to women)

Firstly, check out the 14 topics you are about to read. Then, you’re going deep into each one of them.

In order to become a real man…

  • Your inner boy must be eliminated;
  • You have to learn to control your emotions (your inner game);
  • You must have a purpose in life;
  • You must have a passion in life;
  • You must build a happy single life first;
  • You must become a leader and be proactive;
  • You should learn to become dominant, charming and fun;
  • You need to become interesting, stylish and acquire good taste;
  • You have to become an expert in something you love doing;
  • You cannot allow second class behavior from yourself and others;
  • You must share your gifts so that others can profit from your existence in their lives;
  • You must stop acting needy, seeking approval and bragging right now! Stop trying to impress others, especially women;
  • Any low status behavior must cease to exist;
  • You must be able to motivate yourself at any time;

How to Be a Real Man: Your inner boy must be eliminated

If you have allowed yourself to be boyish for too long, then that has caused women not to feel attraction for you or to lose whatever attraction they might have felt for you in the past.

It is time to make a decision and commitment right here right now to man up, literally. The inner boy must be eliminated right now, or you will never be the real man attractive women desire.

In order to do so, you have to stop acting like a needy, desperate, quick fix seeking, approval seeking man and take responsibility for EVERYTHING that happens in your life.

Stop blaming mom and daddy for whatever happened, stop blaming your job and yourself and start taking responsibility and finding solutions that will make your life better.

And most importantly: stop being jealous of other peoples’ success and go get your own.

Eliminate all child-like behaviors now, internally and externally!

Do whatever it takes to get it handled: read books, talk to other real men if you get the chance, find good seminars/workshops, do therapy, whatever works for you.

Bad news is that if you don’t eliminate your inner child (or inner wussy), nothing you do or say will get you what you want in life and no attractive women will want to be with you. Good news is that once you do get rid of the little wussy boy dwelling inside you, you will have made room for the real man you have inside you to surface. And that’s when the magic really starts and that’s when attractive women start noticing how YOU stand out in the crowd!

How to Be a Real Man: You have to learn to control your emotions (your inner game)

The way you see yourself is the way you project yourself in the real world. It sounds a little far out, but it is the truth, like it or not.

If you believe you are confident, then people will see you and treat you as such, and so on. The opposite is ALSO true: if you see yourself as a loser, then guess what? I strongly suggest that you go work on your inner game before anything else, and you will find that the rest will pretty much take care of itself, so to speak.

There is a plethora of materials on how to evolve as a man, control your emotions and understand yourself and others. Malcolm has some interesting posts on the subject that you cannot miss. Also, if you haven’t read his book yet, you’re missing out.

Anyway, as you probably know by now, women test men constantly. That’s how they can make sure you have integrity and congruence, if you walk the talk, if she can still trust you (especially when she is in a long term relationship with you).

Accept the fact that women test you, that’s what they are hardwired to do. Get over it and learn how to deal with the tests effectively. That said, a real man is in control of his emotions all the time.

I’m not saying a real man never gets angry or frustrated or stressed. What I’m saying is that a real man KNOWS how to deal with them and keep them at bay so that people and situations don’t push their buttons or push them around.

Guess what happens if a woman tests you and you get some emotional reaction, or she gets you off balance? Her attraction will drop faster than you can say “I’ll masturbate tonight”.

Women need a centered and solid man they can trust, not a wussy boy that has a row of buttons in his body that everyone can push and control as they see fit.

One example of a real man in control of his emotions: The character Duncan Carlisle, an FBI agent from the series Hostages. If you have the chance, watch how he keeps his poise regardless of how tense the situation is (pretty much every second of the show and including at gun point). You will see that when he feels his emotions coming up and trying to get him off balance, he will take a deep and strong breath and balance himself, thus keeping his cool. It is a model that I carry with myself, along with James Bond and other cool and centered guys you see in movies and other forms of fiction. Another example I like is the character played by Denzel Washington on “Flight (2012)” when the plane is falling head on. Ok, I know he is severely stoned in that scene, but the way he got calmer when everyone else was panicking is pure gold!

If you know men with that kind of control in real life, make sure you learn from them. Realize that the characters I mentioned or the few mature real men out there DO NOT get affected by other people’s reality, because they have a much stronger one.

Learn how to control your emotions ASAP. Your life and interactions with anyone will change FOREVER and you will become very attractive to women.

How to Be a Real Man: You must have a purpose in life

If you don’t know what your purpose in life is, then it’s time to find out.

Women are hard-wired to support a man in his journey and help him raise his rank among other men. If you don’t have a purpose, then there’s nothing to support, right?

Women resent men who are not willing to become a better version of themselves everyday by pursuing their goals and careers and achieving greatness in life.

I’m not saying you should try and become a millionaire if that’s not your desire. I’m saying you MUST have something that drives you forward, something you are passionate about, something your dream woman can support and help with.

My purpose in life (I recently came to realize): improve myself constantly and help people achieve their dreams.

What’s yours?

There must be something that drives you, something that makes you happy. Something that not even the hottest women could get in the way of or stop you from doing.

And by the way, once you find your purpose in life, be wary that women WILL test you on that too. Feminine energy can be very distracting and she will try and distract you (sometimes consciously, sometimes unconsciously) from your purpose.

Be ready to say “NO” to these distractions. Your woman might look offended at first, but she will respect you, want you and love you more for being a man on his path.

It’s damn hot to women when men don’t let them get in the way of his dreams and ambitions!

Counter intuitive, as most of what works in the game of attracting beautiful women by the way.

How to Be a Real Man: You must have a passion in life

A real man not only knows his passions but he is also very clear about them. In addition, one of the things that turn women on is a passionate man.

Women can’t help but feeling a strong gut level attraction for men who are in deep love with something he does in life, be it his job or a hobby. Women can’t control it.

It doesn’t matter if your passion is stamp collection, cooking, your job, helping people, doing volunteer work, animals or charity.

Suppose your job is your passion, then how you can tell women what you do in a passionate way? By the way, if you cannot talk about your job in an interesting way, then learn how to do it first!

I’m a teacher of English in Brazil and most people here dream of speaking English so they can achieve their dreams of working in better companies, travelling, getting better salaries and even watching a movie without subs!

I LOVE what I do and I let everyone in the class know it from day one. I say, after introducing myself and getting to know them a little: “You will realize that I love being here with you, I love sharing what I know and I will do whatever is in my powers to help you achieve whatever dream you have!” I say every single word with emotion and passion and people feel it!

When attractive women ask what I do, I don’t just say “I’m a teacher”. I usually say “I help people achieve their dreams”, which not only is true, but also sounds way more interesting and appealing to women.

Surely women can feel my passion when I say it and they want to know more and more, they want to get more of that passion I’m giving off. My students come to me and say that I’m the best and it’s clear that I love what I do.

Women make comments such as: “it’s so cool to see how passionate you are!”. Their body language towards me changes completely as they lean forward and start sending lots of attraction signals.

Enough about me though…

Be aware of what your passion is. If you love your job, than make sure you talk about it in an interesting, passionate way. That goes for any other passion you might have.

Malcolm has already talked about this in much greater detail in the article “Obsession: The ONLY Thing You Need to Be Successful In Life”, so make sure you check that article out too.

How to Be a Real Man: You must build a happy single life first

Before I delve into the topic, let me tell you what the wuss does when it comes to women and dating:

The wuss doesn’t have his life and emotions together, he is not interesting, has no passions or purposes in life. In order to be happy, the wuss believes he has to find a woman (any will do, by the way) to cling on to and suck her life energy dry, because she is his ONLY source of happiness.

Don’t be that guy!

A real man is happy regardless of anything or anyone. A real man is not affected by external factors and events, he is too strong for that. Sure the real man loves dating attractive, healthy and interesting women, but he DOES NOT need them to be happy.

A real man understands that women are sources of pleasure and fun, of a great energy to complement his already great life.

If you want to make women happy or to have a lasting and happy relationship, make sure you have a happy single life first.

Don’t be a leech!

Don’t be a wuss!

Women feel when a man is sucking her energy and they know when the man is a lonely, resentful and unhappy chump. I know it because I used to be this kind of guy and because I have watched thousands of guys doing it.

Ever wondered why women put so much thinking in breaking up with this kind of guy?

They know that if they break up the guy will be unable to feel happiness on his own and that is a lot of pressure on her shoulders. I’ve seen and heard girls trying to make the guy break up with them so that they wouldn’t feel burdened.

Build a happy single life before going out on dates and before getting into a long term relationship. Save yourself and your woman all the hassle.

In the next part of this series I will show you some tips on how to be a leader (and become more proactive), how to become more dominant (and charming) to women, and how to become a much more interesting person.

How to Be a Real Man: You must become a leader and be proactive

Self-explanatory, I hope. Leaders are alpha, followers are beta. Women not only hate, but also resent men who can’t lead.

It hurts my eyes when I see women leading men around, while sporting a bored and unsatisfied face. I see women leading men by the hand, opening doors for men, choosing where to sit, what restaurant to eat, etc.

Women DO NOT want this power! They never asked for it in the first place. They want YOU to be the man!

They actually try giving you obvious signs by asking questions or by showing their dissatisfaction when you don’t take the lead.

They will say things like: “I’ll go wherever you decide”, “where do you wanna go?”, “What film do you wanna watch”?, “Do you think we should get pizza tonight?”.

It’s her way of saying: “take the lead and decide for me, because you’re supposed to be the dominant man, not me”.

Being a leader will help you in many areas of your life, so why not acquire this skill, if you already don’t have it naturally?

Be a leader at your job, your school, your community, the room you’re in.

Be proactive as well: do not wait on other people’s cues so you know how or when to act. Just go and do it! If you see someone littering, just go and fix it.

You see someone needing help and you can help? Just go and do it! No need to over analyze, bitch or complain.

Someone’s gotta do something, right? Be that man and I assure you everyone will respect you and value you much more for that.

And yes: attractive women will orbit around you!

How to Be a Real Man: You should learn to become dominant, charming and fun

If you’re none of the three, don’t panic: it is possible to learn and/or incorporate it all in your style and personality.

Dominance: there’s a fine line between being dominant and being domineering.

The first is an attractive trait of a real man that women love. The latter is considered abusive and bossy, turns women off and is a considered pushy.

A dominant man asserts his dominance over others (and especially women) with strong body language, eye contact, voice tone and his strong beliefs on himself.

Women can tell instantly if you are a dominant man or a wuss-pushover.

Learn the body language of a REAL MAN, become incredibly good at eye contact and make sure your voice is not that of a chipmunk or a little boy.

Believe you are strong and powerful and people will believe it too.

Learn how to be charming and women will love having you around, as a lover and also as a friend. Also, as you have probably seen in one of Malcolm’s posts: The art of attracting women consists of 10% projection of success, 10% appearance, 10% intelligence and 70% charm. I’ll let that sink in for a minute.

When I learned to use charm properly, I saw my interactions with EVERYONE improve and I got the best results ever. That’s right, I said EVERYONE. Of course we want to attract beautiful women, but it is amazing how even men, especially high status and powerful men will feel better around you and even say good things about you to other women!

Learn the art of charm, believe you are super charming and you will see how people respond to you. You will see how women are charming back and how they flirt with you all the time.

Fun: as the song goes – “Girls just wanna have fun!”. Amen to that!

Guess what is the first thing most women say they look for in a guy? Fun!

Guess what they constantly write on their online dating profiles when it comes to looking for a relationship? Fun!

Girls are “fun junkies” and they can’t get enough of it. Observe how women are constantly bored when they are around not fun people or a non fun environment. Now observe how they light up and how they come alive when they are having FUN.

Don’t get me wrong though: I’m not telling you to be a non-stop comedian. No need to be an entertainment monkey. Being fun with a woman is about being pleasant and being witty. It’s about being playful with her, using the environment in your favor. It’s NOT about being a tight ass, super serious or logical guy.

Learn how to be fun by reading about it or by watching guys who are naturally fun and pleasant interacting with women. See what they do and how women respond to them. Humor is always welcome.

Remember that women have thousands of worries: from looking sharp to attract men, to the work routine, to whether they turned off the light before they left home, to what she’s wearing the next day in order to look sharp again. None of that is usually fun, so make sure you add fun to their lives!

How to Be a Real Man: You need become interesting, stylish and acquire good taste

Become Interesting: What is the opposite of “interesting”? I’d say it’s “boring”. “Boring” means “nothing interesting going on”.

Bearing that in mind, you have to become an interesting man. Read, travel, get to know different cultures and people, start talking to interesting people, see what interesting people are doing and talking about.

I haven’t traveled at all and I am missing out, I know. But I believe that you probably have and that alone already makes you incredibly interesting. Notice how people love to sit and hear the stories and differences about other countries and cultures. I myself LOVE to hear from travelers!

How to make a conversation interesting to a woman: ever noticed how women talk when they are together?

It’s all about feeling each other, interacting back, painting the pictures with a combination of words and emotions. They touch to emphasize points, they change the voice tone accordingly to the conversation’s momentum, they wave their hands, they change their facial expressions, etc.

If you want to make conversations interesting to women, start watching girl talk more often so you can pick a few things to use in your next interactions with them.

Warning: I’m not telling you to go overboard with this and become their best gay friend. I’m telling you to engage their emotions and keep them interested in your way of talking and interacting with them.

Works on first dates, works with your female friends (who will find you interesting and hook you up with their interesting single female friends), works for the rest of your lives.

Become stylish: every attractive woman is aware of fashion and what looks good in general and so does a real man. Stop wearing what everyone in the crowd is wearing, stop being generic!

Attractive women will not hang out with men that, for instance, can’t understand why the belt HAS to match the shoes. What will their friends think if they hang out with a guy that doesn’t understand style and fashion?

Clothing: If you don’t have your own style, time to get one. It’s OK to look around and even check what the male stars women consider hot are wearing.

If you have the means, hire a personal stylist, if you are like me and you can’t afford one, go to the stores and try out some new stuff, ask your female friends if you look good.

If you have gay friends, you definitely should ask them! I’m serious! These guys have a supernatural sense to what looks good for women!

Women love shoes so make sure you get cool pairs of shoes that look good with the rest of the outfit. And please keep those shoes shining and clean.

You will know you are on the right track when your friends and women start paying attention and complimenting you on your style.

Hairstyle: Again, stop being generic. The hair style that looks good on your buddies might not be the right one for YOU.

It pays to pay a little more for a haircut on a fancier place. I don’t mean to disrespect the female hairstylists, but I don’t get my hair cut by women. My suggestion is that you get a male hairstylist and that you ask for his opinion on what haircut would be better for your face type.

If you are not homophobic (which you shouldn’t), a gay hairstylist will want to make you look awesome. They like to make people look great and they will be brutally honest with you. Additionally, you can check magazines and the movie stars women consider hot for some cues on hairstyles.

Accessories and other: Women are accessories freaks. I personally don’t accessorize a lot, but I do like a nice looking watch. Get one with a cool leather wrist strap, or with a cool display. The silver metallic watch is super generic, so I don’t wear them. Plus, the impression I get from these types of watches is that it adds some extra years to my real age.

Get a nice perfume. Something masculine and/or musky. Spray a little on your shoulders (women love to lay their heads on them) and chest area (women love hugging and also touching the chest area of a man). She will love your smell and compliment you on your good taste. Not to mention that she will have your perfume on her and think of you in hot ways after you two part ways.

As for necklaces and wristbands, they are not my thing at the moment, but I’ve seen some guys with cool items lately and I might incorporate them into my style. Also, accessories are great for giving a chance to women to convey their interest in you. If they are attracted to you, they will comment on your accessories and might touch them while they’re at it. So think about it!

Tattoos: I believe that most people find a nice and cool tattoo very sexy. I myself have one on my right arm. It’s discreet and only part of it shows when I’m wearing T-shirts. That adds to my mystery and charm and gets women approaching me and asking me to show it to them.

Some come shamelessly touching my arm and trying to roll up my sleeve in order to see it, at which point I kinda bust their balls and say “don’t touch me” or “No” and I add that I’m not easy and not all women get to see it. It creates a challenge for them, amplifies the intrigue and mystery and makes them even MORE attracted to me.

Tattoos are daring, because they hurt like hell (mine did anyways), so it also makes you kinda brave for having them.

If you have one, how can you make it appealing for women?

How can you tell the story about your tattoo in an interesting way?

Think about it!

If you don’t have one, try not to pick the generic tattoos everyone is getting. Pick one that has meaning for you and adds to your personality, so that you can talk about it in a passionate and interesting way later on.

Acquire good taste: Once you get your clothing and hairstyle handled, you’re almost there.

A real man has a set of preferences: things he likes, things he doesn’t like and he lets people know it in many different ways. Here’s some food for thought: the pickier you are, the more interesting and attractive you become to women.

That’s what being picky does for you: you and other people get a clearer picture of who you are and what you like.

You have an identity, a personality and style that is unique, even though most things are what other people do anyway. What makes it unique is that you are assertive and consistent about your tastes and things you don’t like.

As an “Identity exercise”, why don’t you go and make a “likes and dislikes” list?

It’s fun and you will have a stronger sense of identity, people will respect you more and women will feel more attracted to you, because you know what you want and what you don’t want.

How to Be a Real Man: You have to become an expert at something you love doing

Experts are universally attractive to employers and to women. A person who mastered a skill or a set of skills stands out in the crowd. I suggest you become an expert at something you love doing.

If you love history, master it. If you love cars and what makes them tick, master it. If you love comedy, master it. It doesn’t matter what it is, but, as a real man, it should be something you love doing, otherwise why would you be doing it in the first place?

“I love what I do and I’m damn good at it, in fact I’m the best at it. Sit down and relax because you are in for the best ride of your life”.

Sounds arrogant to you?

To me they sound like assertive firm beliefs, especially because you will never say them out loud like that. Guess what happens: people will come to you saying you’re the best and how much they enjoyed your expertise.

Become an expert at something you love doing, believe you are the best at doing it and people will not only follow, but also be sucked in in your reality. If you are already an expert at something, just make sure you know you are the best and that you love it.

Sex expert: May I also suggest you become an expert in sex?

I know you love sex and so do women.

A real man is an expert in sex and has no problems giving women orgasms, even though every woman is different.

Check out the article “How to Make a Girl Orgasm (and Become Sexually Addicted to You)” It will help you achieve mastery on the subject.

Nothing like a woman telling you how amazing you are and that they can’t get enough of you or that you were the first to give them a proper orgasm (or a multiple one)!

How to Be a Real Man: You cannot allow second class behavior from yourself and others

A real man doesn’t allow second class behaviors, primarily from himself and then from others.

Examples of second class behaviors: kissing up to people, approval seeking, neediness, whining/bitching/complaining, playing “the victim” overspending, overeating, giving power away in order to get something in return (especially attention and sex from women), lying, cheating (or any form of deceit), manipulation, procrastination, not taking responsibility (or blaming others), saying “yes” all the time for everyone, apologizing all the time, jealousy or any negative emotion, etc.

I think you got the idea.

Look at the list above and see if you have been doing ANY of these. If you have, it’s time to stop immediately!

A real man does none of the above and, if by any chance, he notices any of them coming up he takes a deep breath and shows them who is boss. If it is in front of other people, he apologizes for his behavior and carries on as nothing had happened.

Second class behavior from self: The wuss – Master of second class behavior (shocker huh?).

He is the master of it all and will try and do deadly combos of the list above. The wuss is the great manipulator, even though he thinks he is just being nice and friendly.

Here’s why the wuss is the master manipulator: he buys expensive dinner and gifts expecting that the woman will spread her legs for him afterwards. He complains and plays the victim in order to get others to feel sorry for him (a.k.a “secondary payoff”). He lies and does anything sneaky if he suspects he might get laid or might get some other form of compensation.

He says “yes” to everyone even when he wanted to say “no”. He apologizes for everything, sometimes in advance and even for his own existence. He blames people for his lack of success and he is secretly resentful of guys who are successful, especially with women. He even resents women, thinking that they are bitches for not seeing how “wonderful and willing to do everything” he is.

Enough of that, it’s giving me the chills and making me remember the “golden years” in which I used to be a wuss.

Second class behavior from others: a real man does not accept second behavior from others. He will either let people know by verbalizing it or by simply not being part of it. We live in the real world and I don’t want you to become a scapegoat where you work or study for example.

If you constantly nag people by saying they shouldn’t do this or that, they will scapegoat your ass, believe me. But as a real man, you can drive the conversations toward something constructive and positive or you can discreetly leave the scene.

When it comes to women though, I strongly believe you must let her know you don’t take shit or drama from them. It is your job as a man to tell her.

Example: your girlfriend or wife starts bitching non-stop about how terrible her job is and people hurt her today. The whole drama is rising and she starts losing control and mistaking you from one of her friends.

What do you do?

Be a wuss/therapist/girlfriend and let her get away with it?

Or show her she is dealing with a real man that does not need drama in his life and say: “listen, I can see you are upset and you have all the right to be, but if you are just going to complain and bitch, then you have your friends for that. I am willing to listen and maybe help you find a solution, but I am your boyfriend/husband, not your therapist and what you’re doing is doing nothing but hurting our relationship and the image I have of you. We will talk later when you are calmer.”

I know. It sounds harsh and insensitive, but believe me when I say that if you stop her from doing that, she will respect you more and love you more for that, as opposed to you letting her make you her wuss/therapist/girlfriend, which makes her attraction for you drops dramatically fast. Don’t be an emotional tampon for women!

Notice that the real man in the example above does not get sucked in by her reality and drama. He is willing to listen, but only on his terms and having HER as a guest in HIS strong reality.

He didn’t act like a jerk by telling her to shut up, nor was he a wuss who would have taken all the crap in with a smile in his face for hours (probably hoping he would get sex for sucking all her drama and pain dry…the big dreamer…).

Bear in mind that the example above was just a sample of what you can say, not a script to follow. The most important thing to remember is to NEVER get phased by her drama and to never get off balance, emotionally speaking.

How to Be a Real Man: You must share your gifts so that others can profit from your existence in their lives

A real man proactively makes a difference in the world around him. He does that by making a difference in people’s life, the place he works at and the world he lives in.

A real man has no problem sharing his gifts with other people. If anything, he is glad to help and to make people’s life better.

Making a difference in people’s life: You probably know a lot of other men. By now you know that most men have no game and don’t know how to interact with women.

Believe me: not only will you feel unique happiness from helping someone in need, but also you will learn quadruple the speed! Teaching is learning faster and more effectively! Not to mention that you will make great friends that will do anything they can to help you for the rest of your lives!

Help your family, be there for them when they need it. Realize that family and friends are the most important things in the world. Be selfless. Help without expecting things in return. You will be surprised by how people will value, respect you and be willing to do things for you, especially because you never asked for anything in return in the first place.

Making a difference at work: A real man takes his work seriously and professionally. Sure he is fun to be around, but he is really serious and passionate about what he does. That said, the real man will help other people realize how great they are, especially if he is a leader in the corporation.

A great leader makes sure he turns other people into great leaders. This way he has more able hands to help him and the company. Because he is a competent high achiever, he is bound to get higher in the hierarchy tree and his position will need to be filled; the people he prepared will take his place immediately. Because he is not afraid of losing his position to anyone, the real man will succeed and help others succeed. That’s just who he is.

When it comes to dealing with his superiors, the real man, even when he takes orders, he does so with dignity. Because he is naturally proactive and is not afraid to step up and speak his mind, becomes respected and trusted by his superiors, who will in turn recognize his value and invest in him.

I do know that some companies will never value you regardless of how great you are.

My question, in that case, is: what the hell are you still doing there?

Quit the job that doesn’t value you and find one that does value you.

Making a difference in the world: you probably don’t know it, but you probably have made or are making a difference in the world. If you do the things we just discussed above, you’re on the right track and you’re changing the world around you.

In addition to what we have discussed above, you can: do volunteer work, donate to a trusted institution, create a business that improves people’s life, etc.

If you are an artist, say a singer or a writer, than you are changing the world with your work. If you’re a doctor, you’re saving people’s lives! If you are a teacher, you’re sharing knowledge that makes the world a better place to live in.

The same goes if you are a police officer, a fireman, a sales person, a cleaner, etc.

Think about it and maybe you are already making a difference and you didn’t even know about it. If you’re not, it’s never too late and you will love doing it, I guarantee you!

Another example: by reading this post , you are becoming a better man, thus making women happier, thus making a happy, healthy and solid family a reality, thus giving birth to great healthy kids (because they were raised by great parents) who will make the world a better place to live in!

By commenting on the posts and/or sharing your stories, you are helping other men who will be forever grateful for your selfless and courageous act!

Warning: just don’t feel like you HAVE to do any of these things! Do it because you want to, because you LOVE to!

How to Be a Real Man: You must stop acting needy, seeking approval and bragging right now! Stop trying to impress others, especially women.

Perhaps this topic should have been one of the first ones. But deliberately, this topic is one of the last ones, because I believe that by now you got to know yourself a little better, maybe meditated on some of the topics and have more clarity on the whole “being a real man” thing.

Consider this a “consolidation topic”. You now know that neediness and approval seeking are arch-enemies of attraction. Now let’s talk a little about “bragging”.

What’s with us men that we love bragging so much?

It’s almost a rule of thumb that men should brag about everything, especially women they’re banging or have banged!

The only thing that bragging does to you: lowers your value and makes you look like a needy and desperate loser. Especially to women!

A real man is so discreet that women love every discovery they have to make about them. They love his discretion and they trust that he will not tell his buddies that he banged her. That is “super hot”, put in chick’s talk.

Women instinctively know that a man who doesn’t brag is actually incredible and great.

Example: A wuss bragging about his alleged sex prowess is most likely a guy who can’t please a woman, probably cums super fast (again in chick’s talk) and probably has problems getting it up because he is so anxious to impress the ladies. When a person brags, it’s almost always safe to assume that the opposite is true.

A man who has his life and his masculinity together feels no need to brag or to put other people down so he feels superior. I used to be a dumbass and brag about everything. I would supersize facts to make me look cooler. I would lie in order to impress both men and women. All I did was repelling people and fooling myself. Stop trying to impress people! It’s worse than “you don’t need it”, it backfires and makes you look like you’re trying way too hard!

How to Be a Real Man: Any Low Status Behavior Must Cease to Exist

Low status behavior kills attraction effectively. You must avoid any sort of low status behavior.

Low status behaviors of the wuss: hunched posture, nervous ticks, fidgeting, tense facial expression, emotional outbreaks, jealousy, neediness, approval seeking, bragging, spending money in order to impress women, complimenting women all the time, trying hard, being part of any form of dishonesty, addictions, bad habits, childish behavior, having women take the lead, meek and soft voice tone, talking too fast, accepting second class behavior from yourself and others, following the herd (doing what everybody is doing just to look cool and feel safe), self-consciousness, procrastinating, submissiveness, afraid to speak his mind, cowardice and discourteousness, not knowing to say the word “No”, putting women on a pedestal, putting others first and neglecting self, etc.

I have a word that pretty much sums it all up and starts with “w”. Seriously though, it is no coincidence that the topics you have been reading overlap often. That is because basically one thing is connected to another in some way or in many ways. I just laid out to you a quick “not to do list” on behavior. It wouldn’t be fair not to list some high status behavior, even though you have been reading about most of them all along. Let’s do this:

High status behaviors of a real man: strong posture and body language, poise, slow movements, calm and relaxed facial expressions, emotional control, being self-confident, being self-sufficient, discretion, not spending money to impress women, not compliment women all the time or at all, being who he is and not caring about what other people think, brutally honest and sincere, taking care of self, good habits, masculine behavior, leading, strong, resonate and cutting voice tone, talking in proper rhythm and pausing for effect, not accepting second class behavior from self and others, having his own style and beliefs, not self-conscious, proactivity, dominance, not afraid to speak his mind and not caring about what people think when he does, bravery and chivalry, having no problem to say the word “No”, putting self on a pedestal, putting self first knowing that this is the right and healthy way to help others then, etc.

How to Be a Real Man: You Must Be Able to Motivate Yourself At Any Time

A real man doesn’t have time to feel down and get depressed. Besides, his life is mostly success and great times than anything else. I’m not saying that the real man never gets sad or upset. The difference between a real man and a wuss is that the real man is able to get himself up on his feet in no time, whereas the wuss plays the victim, evokes pity from others so that he can get a secondary payoff from people giving him attention.

The real man focuses more on his successes than on his failures. He does not evoke pity from others, he does not play the victim, he does not let it show so as not to burden others with whatever ails him. Whenever he is down, he pumps himself up by reminding himself of how great and successful he is. He believes he is the best and that whatever happened is part of life and he can and will get over anything!

Self-talk: One of the ways to self-motivation is self-talk. Most people engage in self-talk, consciously and unconsciously. I suggest you do it consciously. The book “What to say when you talk to yourself”, by Ph.D. Shad Helmstetter, can help you greatly with that.

In a nutshell, self-talk is about talking to yourself so as to motivate, improve yourself, and also to keep you focused on what is positive, on your goals. It is easy to be harsh on yourself when you fail by saying “you are such a loser!” or “you will never make it!”, but once you change this bad programming you will reap the rewards of being able to motivate yourself and stop playing the “victim of the world”.

Being positive: for the “average” person, it’s easier to be negative and blame external events for their “bad breaks in life”. But here’s the good news: positive thoughts are way stronger than negative ones!

I propose a commitment to you: every time you catch yourself being negative in any form, you will consciously think (or say out loud if possible): “I’m a real man, I don’t need this crap in my life!”. Do it consistently enough and in no time you will realize you really don’t need this crap and that being positive pays off better.

And by the way, you don’t need to watch the kind of sensationalist news that shows all kinds of negativity. Most people are negativity junkies and look at how their lives turn out in the end of the day and of their lives.

Meditation and breathing: No need to be a Buddhist monk for this one. Meditation is about relaxing and getting to know yourself better, about seeing things clearer. Meditation, especially in times of great stress, allows you to take a break. It’s like “pausing” your life for a while so that you can see and feel things you normally wouldn’t and do something about them. Meditating will help you find some answers and be more in control of yourself.

Changing the sub a little, do you breathe well? Do you take deep conscious breaths during your day? If not, start being aware of your breathing. Don’t deprive your cells of proper oxygenation! Also, remember what I said about real man quickly taking control of upcoming emotions by simply taking a deep breath and handling the situation graciously. I’m not a doctor and I’m not going deep in this one, but feel free to check the benefits online.

How to Be a Real Man (and Become Incredibly Attractive to Women)

In this article I laid out for you some topics on how to become a real man that attractive women must have.

It is a long journey but all you need is that first step. I guarantee you will no longer see the world the way you used to.

Once you evolve, there’s no turning back to your older self. It will feel like when Neo could see and understand the matrix for the first time.

Notice that even though our focus here is learning how to deal with women and dating, when you become a real man, every single part of your life will change for the best and being great with women will get itself handled as a consequence.

I believe you can do it. I believe it is worth every amount of energy and time you put into it.

Don’t forget to share your experiences with us and don’t forget to help other men when you get there!

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Readers' Questions

  • Elliott
    How to be magnetically attractive?
    4 months ago
  • Being magnetically attractive is not just about physical appearance, but also about possessing certain qualities that make you appealing to others. Here are some tips to enhance your magnetism:
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    • Elfstan
      How to be a real man that wemon love?
      1 year ago
      1. Respect Women: Respect all women, regardless of their social status or whatever else. Demonstrate respect by listening to what they have to say and treating them as equals.
      2. Be Confident: Women are attracted to confidence. Show that you are confident in yourself by being comfortable in your own skin and having a sense of self-worth.
      3. Be Yourself: Don't put on a false persona; be genuine and authentic. Women can see through a facade and will appreciate you more when they see the real you.
      4. Be Trustworthy: Show the woman that you are a reliable and trustworthy individual. Be honest and do what you say you will do.
      5. Be Considerate: Show the woman that you care about her and that she is important to you. Demonstrate this by being considerate of her feelings and going out of your way to make her feel special.
      6. Be Chivalrous: Chivalry is not dead and still makes a woman feel special. Treat her with respect and do things such as opening doors for her and pulling out chairs.
      7. Be Protective: Women still like to feel protected and safe. Show her that you will protect her if the need arises.
      8. Be Positive: Women are attracted to positive men. Show her the best side of yourself by being upbeat and optimistic.