Don't Give Her Too Much Attention

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I used to give women LOADS of attention before that just led to them running away from me, metaphorically speaking.

While on the other hand, my friend who had a girlfriend did not give much attention to new women he met, and it seemed that some women actually became attracted to him.

I don’t know whether it was the whole forbidden fruit principle or that he gave women the right amount of attention or whatnot.

Then there’s me, a guy who used to SMOTHER women with attention because I felt the need to have someone in my life to make me feel happy. I was far from right.

When I did get a girlfriend, I was happier in the short run but all my own problems had resurfaced after a while.

I used to believe that if I got a girlfriend, all my personal problems would disappear, and this was certainly not true in my case.

I had put a condition on my happiness, and that condition was to get a girlfriend first in order to finally become happy. Many people put conditions on their happiness such as to become rich first and then be able to experience happiness.

Anyways, I used to message women constantly! If the conversation ended one day, I would start texting them again the next day! At first they were fine with it, but then they just stopped talking to me or giving me one worded answers.

I learned from all of my mistakes, and I learned that one should balance the amount of attention they give to women.

The stuff I am talking about is what would happen BEFORE a relationship, because if you’re in a serious relationship, I don’t know whether giving too much attention would be fine or whatnot.

Some women become overly attached once they get into a relationship, constantly asking your whereabouts and constantly wanting you to hang out with them instead of having a night out with your boys.

To be honest, I wanted that type of relationship when I was younger because I wanted to feel that a girl loved me and always wanted to hang out with me.

When I did get a girlfriend, I felt like I just wanted some alone time and some time with my buddies just to chill out for once.

Anyways, I made the mistake of giving women too much attention because I had a scarcity mindset with women. I believed that beautiful women were a rare resource, and so I had only ONE chance to win their approval.

This meant that I had to constantly give them attention and make them get to know me as much as possible, and the opposite happened.

I thought that if I gave them LOT’S of attention, they would slowly start getting ATTRACTED to me. However, this does not work all the time and I definitely noticed that it rarely worked in my situation.

The answer to this is using a push and pull technique.

This technique basically says that you have to at first give lots of attention to women, trying to know more about them and let them do all the talking.

Once you see that they start getting attracted to you, and sometimes they don’t which is fine as you can just move on to another woman, then you start showing signs of disinterest.

Some signs of disinterest is to not talk to them for a while and let them text you first. I have done this before, and sometimes women just won’t text you back regardless.

This technique works more efficiently if the woman is interested in you in the first place, which could be from your body language and confidence.

Most women LOVE talking about themselves, their passions, hobbies etc.

I am a naturally curious person and so I try to get them to talk about themselves and I try to dig deeper into why they are so passionate about something or such as why they love to play a certain kind of sport.

I try to get to the story behind what they talk about, and I feel like it creates a better connection between us. I also try to relate her stories with mine as it helps up to build rapport.

I do not do this on purpose just to get in their pants, I am naturally curious about people I meet and if it does lead to something more then that’s fine with me.

The moral of this lesson is to not smother women with attention.

I used to have a scarcity mentality with women and that’s why I wanted to give them ALL of my attention because I felt like I would NEVER meet another attractive woman ever.

I love to meet new people and if I do meet a woman and get her number, I would go out on a date with her and give her lots of attention in the beginning by finding out more about her and doing all of the listening.

If she starts asking me questions about myself then I will start opening up as well as it creates a connection.

Then I would balance my attention and talk to her after a few days instead of a few hours like I used to do before.

If she does like you, she will find the time to talk to you and ask questions about yourself as well.

Continue reading here: How to Use Push-Pull to Get Women Attracted to You

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Readers' Questions

  • Robinia
    What is a due care attentuon course all about do u do a test what happens if u get the quitiin wrong?
    2 months ago
  • A due care attention course is typically an educational program designed to improve one's driving skills and increase awareness of road safety. The course covers topics such as defensive driving techniques, traffic laws, risk management, and the importance of paying attention while driving. Most due care attention courses do include a test at the end to assess the participant's understanding of the material. The test usually consists of multiple-choice or true/false questions based on the course content. It is essential to carefully read and study the course material to increase your chances of passing the test. If you answer a question incorrectly, it typically does not have severe consequences. You may be allowed to retake the test or receive additional instruction before attempting the test again. However, the specific rules and guidelines may vary depending on the course provider and the jurisdiction in which you are taking the course. It is always recommended to carefully follow the instructions provided by the course provider for any consequences related to incorrect answers.
    • teodros
      Why is giving too much attention to my girlfriend bad?
      2 months ago
    • Giving too much attention to your girlfriend can be considered bad for a few reasons:
      1. Dependency: If you constantly give all your attention to your girlfriend, she may become dependent on you for her happiness, sense of self-worth, and validation. This can create an unhealthy dynamic where she relies heavily on you for her emotional well-being, which can be overwhelming for both of you.
      2. Lack of personal space: Constant attention can leave little room for personal space, hobbies, and individual growth. It is crucial for both partners in a relationship to have time for themselves, their interests, and their personal development. Giving too much attention to your girlfriend may prevent her from pursuing her own individuality and personal goals.
      3. Unbalanced relationship: An imbalance can occur if one partner is consistently giving more attention than the other. This can create feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction, as the partner who receives less attention may feel neglected or undervalued. It is important to maintain a healthy balance of attention and focus on maintaining an equal partnership.
      4. Burnout: Constantly focusing solely on your girlfriend's needs can be emotionally draining and may lead to burnout. It is important to prioritize self-care and ensure that your own emotional needs are being met in the relationship. Neglecting your own well-being can have negative consequences for yourself and the relationship.
      5. Overall, a healthy balance of attention, personal space, and individual growth is key to maintaining a strong and fulfilling relationship. It is crucial to communicate with your girlfriend to ensure that both of your needs are being met, and to find a harmonious balance.
      • Ausonio
        When you stop giving girl special attentuon?
        2 months ago
      • When you stop giving a girl special attention, it could be for various reasons and depends on the specific situation. Some possible reasons for withdrawing special attention could include:
        1. Loss of interest: If you no longer feel attracted to the girl or have lost romantic feelings, you may naturally start giving her less special attention.
        2. Relationship imbalance: If you believe that the girl is taking your attention for granted or not reciprocating the effort, you might choose to reduce the special attention you give.
        3. Personal priorities: Sometimes, individuals may have personal commitments, goals, or responsibilities that demand their attention and make it difficult for them to provide special attention to others.
        4. Emotional distance: If you feel emotionally disconnected or find it challenging to connect with the girl on a deeper level, you might unintentionally stop giving her special attention.
        5. Communication issues: Misunderstandings, disagreements, or inadequate communication can also contribute to a decrease in special attention as it can strain the relationship.
        6. It is important to remember that everyone's needs are different, and open communication is crucial in any relationship. If you stop giving special attention to a girl, it might be helpful to have an honest conversation with her to understand her feelings and clarify your own intentions.
        • Jeffrey
          Why you should pay attention to tour girlfriend?
          1 year ago
        • Your girlfriend deserves your attention and respect, and it is important to pay attention to her to show her that she is important to you. Paying attention to your girlfriend helps to build mutual trust and make your relationship stronger. Plus, if you pay attention to her, you may be able to spot the warning signs if something is wrong, and you can help her out if she needs it. Paying attention to your girlfriend also helps you understand her better and will ultimately improve your relationship.
          • Quartilla
            Do not give a woman any non sexual attention?
            1 year ago
          • It is perfectly fine to give a woman non-sexual attention, so long as it is done with respect and consideration. Non-sexual attention can include compliments, kind words, and small gestures such as helping with a task or offering to get her something. It is important to remain respectful and not to make her feel uncomfortable.
            • Katharina Busch
              How to not gve full attention to the girl?
              1 year ago
              1. Avoid making and maintaining eye contact with the girl.
              2. Don’t speak to the girl unless you absolutely have to.
              3. Distance yourself from her when necessary.
              4. Don’t ask her any personal questions and stay away from topics that will involve an emotional connection.
              5. When you have to speak to her, keep the conversations short and superficial.
              6. Spend time with other people in the group and engage in conversations that don’t involve her.
              • pervinca chubb
                What goes to a girl's mind when you refused to give her attention?
                1 year ago
              • It depends on the individual, but a girl's mind might go to thoughts of rejection, insecurity, and/or confusion as to why you are not giving her attention.
                • inaaya
                  How women respond when you dont pay attention anymore?
                  1 year ago
                • If a woman feels like you are no longer paying attention to her, she may be hurt and upset. She may feel ignored and disconnected from you. She may respond with silence, withdrawal, or passive aggression. She may also be more confrontational, trying to get your attention back. Ultimately, how a woman responds when you don't pay attention anymore depends on the individual and the context.
                  • ollie
                    Why a girl gives me alot of attention?
                    1 year ago
                  • There could be a few different reasons why a girl might give you a lot of attention. She might genuinely be interested in you, or she could just be trying to be nice and friendly. It's important to consider the context of the situation and how long the attention has been going on to determine what her intentions are.
                    • zachary
                      How to give a girl attention over text?
                      1 year ago
                      1. Compliment her: Let her know how much you appreciate her by complimenting her on her looks, her skills, her kindness, or anything else you admire about her.
                      2. Send her a funny meme or GIF: Make her laugh by sending her something funny.
                      3. Ask her how she's doing: Show her that you care about her by checking in and asking how she is doing.
                      4. Ask her opinion on something: Show her that you value her opinion and want her input on things.
                      5. Send her a motivational quote: Let her know that you believe in her and that you're there to cheer her on.
                      6. Offer to help her with something: Let her know that you're there for her and that you're willing to help her with anything she needs.
                      • lea
                        How to give your girlfriend attention over text?
                        1 year ago
                        1. Send her sweet messages and compliments throughout the day.
                        2. Ask her how her day is going and if there's anything you can do to help.
                        3. Send her reminders that she's on your mind.
                        4. Plan a surprise, even if it's a small one.
                        5. Make her laugh with funny jokes and messages.
                        6. Ask her about her life, her thoughts, and how she's feeling.
                        7. Give her the space to talk about anything she wants to.
                        8. Share your own life updates with her.
                        9. Respond quickly to her texts, even if it's just a brief answer.
                        10. Let her know you're thinking of her and miss her.
                        • kaarina
                          How to give your girlfriend attention?
                          1 year ago
                          1. Compliment her: Take the time to express genuine appreciation for who she is and the things she does.
                          2. Spend quality time together: Show your girlfriend that you value her by carving out time in your schedule to spend together.
                          3. Show physical affection: Give her hugs, touches and kisses.
                          4. Listen to her: Avoid talking too much and take the time to really listen to what she’s saying.
                          5. Support her: Be there for her when she needs you and help her out in any way you can.
                          6. Surprise her: Try doing something unexpected or out of the ordinary to make her feel special.
                          7. Show your enthusiasm: Let your girl know how excited you are to be with her and talk about things that you both enjoy.
                          • sophia
                            How to give a girl attention?
                            1 year ago
                            1. Compliment her. Let her know when she looks nice or when she does something well.
                            2. Listen to her. Don’t just listen to respond, but really pay attention to what she has to say.
                            3. Ask questions. Make sure it’s an open-ended question that requires more than a yes or no answer.
                            4. Remember important details. Show her that you pay attention to her by recalling something she’s said in the past.
                            5. Show appreciation. Let her know when you appreciate her help or support.
                            6. Give her your attention. Put away your phone when you’re with her and focus on her.
                            7. Show physical affection. Give her a hug, kiss, or other form of physical affection to show that you’re paying attention to her.
                            8. Make her laugh. Use your sense of humor to lighten the mood and make her smile.